Always in relationship

I was listening to a talk given by Patrick Curry (see from about 18 minutes in here). I loved what he said about relationship: that enchantment arises out of a relationship with the other. They fill you up. That's what I think is so crucial. You don't fuse with them: they, themself, fill you up.

You get a similar sense of enchantment from the video here called Druid in a Yew.

And I want to say that the other is not, will never be, some angelic pure being of perfect compassion: the other will be vulnerable and dependent, mortal, flawed, embodied, and capable of doing harm - even if just by casting shade.

I want to say that all beings (yes, I guess even Hitler and Stalin) have or had some quality (however tint or forgotten or crumbling) that arouses reverence as well as some quality that arouses distaste or criticism.

I want to say that all entanglements that seem collaborative also exclude possibilities for others. Not everyone always benefits. There is no panacea. No remedy for everything.

I want to say that there are always unintended consequences, and all too often they are far worse than the action is good.

I want to say that squirrels can eat ALL the songbird eggs in a small woodland.

I want to say that it does no one any favours to imagine a world of pure heroes (or victims) and pure villains.

I want to say that we all have a Shadow.

I want to say that it's good enough to be earth-stuff.

I want to say that I am afraid. That I am not good enough. That I am blocked. That I am in grief. That I feel anger. But I also want to say that that is OK.