Tane tames me

So, Tane did not disappear... not then... and not yet as far as I know... and as it happens there are at least three fledgling robins around so I don't know who, if any, will end up hanging around.

I sat with him sometimes not filming - and with Scarface (who may be Tiny) - in the attempt to remind them that I am not terrifying. But, really, it's the robins who tame me.

The more I think about it, the more those words of Nastassja Martin ring true... That and an idea from Leo Bersani... or rather an adulterated form of what I think he says in a book I have not read. I heard about him somewhere and followed the lead... This is from this blog:

To find other modes of relationality, loss of the modern sense of self or a “shattering of ego” might be necessary, leading to becomings and new subjectivities. It is possible to draw a parallelism between deterritorializations of this kind and “impersonal narcissism”, a notion Leo Bersani offers. In Intimacies, Bersani elaborates on how a loss of self, through a shattering of the ego, opens new territories for an intimacy of a different nature; a new way of relating to others. For him, intimacy is in trouble if it is not rethought as a mode of being with, rather than a mode of knowing about. He considers the love between the mother and the baby of this kind of intimacy. It is narcissistic, because it assumes a self-love, which is also the case for the current relationalities that sees the Other as a threat. However it doesn’t proceed by differentiating between the self-love and the hate for others. It is “impersonal”, because it proceeds by seeing the self in the Other, seeing the other not as a threat to oneself, but as a new channel through which the self can transgress itself, forming new subjectivities or singularities. In every relationship, what the individual looks for is not a reaffirmation of her/his sense of self, but new formations each and every time.

I like the idea that I am seeking not "a mode of knowing about" but rather "a mode of being with". And I love that last sentence: "...seeing the self in the Other, seeing the other not as a threat to oneself, but as a new channel through which the self can transgress itself, forming new subjectivities or singularities. In every relationship, what the individual looks for is not a reaffirmation of her/his sense of self, but new formations each and every time."

Yes. Transgressing the self. New subjectivities in every relationship. That is the key.

Anyway, two videos of Tane and the third is the two other fledglings.

He's getting very red! (28th July).